what does love look like to you? | Wes Slay Cooks

what does love look like to you?

is it giving your time and energy?

is it physical touch? is it constant attention?

is it quiet and affirming? is loud and publicized?

does your love require validation?

do you explore your love languages? do you accept your love languages?

do you accept love for yourself from others? from yourself?

do you believe you deserve love?

all of these questions in some form or another run through my mind when I cook. I never said I was a master chef or know more than anyone else burning up shit they learned from their parents and grandparents. every meal is just an experiment with a little love.

friends have asked me something like ummm since when did you learn how to cook? I’ve known since childhood. I just never dedicated the time to it as an adult. there was always work or a meeting or workout or tv show or drink or trip or party or something stopping me from taking a little more time to use my hands to craft something I love and soothes me.

I used the excuse that cooking was expensive while blowing a thousand on booze a month. I said it was too time consuming while I binged watched 3 shows in a weekend.

i was starving myself. and lately i needed to remind myself about love.

sometimes love means being selfish. sometimes love means being a recluse. sometimes love means restraint and boundaries. and sometimes love means being open and indulgent.

pandemic-era life has been hard. but there have been years that were about a million times worse, personally.

so when I share something I love or something that I love with people I love, it’s from a sacred place in my heart. Wes Slay Cooks has been something that has made me smile and possibly preserved my sanity.

the space and opportunity to rediscover something I love so much during quarantine allowed me to reflect on why I pour love into the things that I do.

I don’t have an exact moment I remember “finding my passion” because who knows...will I still enjoy this as much when the rona is finally controlled in 2040 as I do now?

all I know is that expressing love in various forms and different mediums is priceless.

thanks for showing this journey love🤎

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